'I bet you analyze everyone you meet': 9-year-old classmates have schoolyard disagreement, mom accuses other mom of being 'failed parent' because she's a therapist

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  • three boys play rock paper scissors in a playground
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  • Entitled mom used my job as a therapist to humiliate me over a kids’ playground fight

    I'm 40F, and I work as a therapist. One thing I take very seriously is keeping my work separate from my personal life. My clients' business stays in my office. At home, I'm just a mom.
  • My son (9) has a classmate whose mom I see often at pickup. And she has always had this attitude toward me each time we see and a makes comments like, "must be nice to sit around and listen to people complain all day" sometimes just after a Hi hi she turned around and said "I bet you analyze everyone you meet." I usually ignore it because honestly, I'm used to people not really understanding what I do.
  • a portrait of a woman with short hair on a white background
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  • On Thursday, our boys got into a normal playground scuffle. The teacher handled it right there and when I came I figured it was over.
  • Then at pickup, this mom comes straight at me in front of everyone. She starts shouting that since I'm a therapist, I should have fixed my son and that if I can't control my own kid, how can anyone trust me to help theirs. Then she actually says, You therapists think you're better than everyone else, but you're just failed parents trying to boss other people around.
  • I was stunned. I told her calmly, This isn't about my job, our kids had a disagreement and it was handled. She ignored me and turned to other parents like she was trying to rally them against me. I stood there humiliated while people I usually chat with just looked down at the ground. And my son heard all of it. Later he asked me if I was bad at my job because of what she said. That part broke me.
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  • I know she was projecting and trying to tear me down, but it still hurt. I spend my days helping people carry their pain, and I try to be a good mom at home. But in that moment, she made me it feel like I was all nothing. Entitlement is bad enough when it's about money or favors, but dragging my profession into a kids' playground misunderstandings ? That was cruel.
  • a mom walks with her son at school, with another boy behind them
  • Commenters felt she had issues beyond the disagreement between the two boys

    Equivalent-Tree-9915 Missed your opportunity to give her your business card. She obviously needs you.
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  • yaghareck Children are mirrors of their parents. their parents like to blame others for kid's behavior.
  • yukidaviji Sounds like she may have had a bad experience with one therapist and now hates every single one.
  • portaporpoise Oof, I'm sorry. It's weird she clearly has something against therapists. Based on the public temper tantrum I'd guess she did something unacceptable in the past and was forced into therapy. And of course it doesn't work if the patient doesn't want it.
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  • wolfcrownebox This woman is extremely jealous of you. Extremely.
  • davemich53 Should have asked her if she wanted to book an appointment with you to look into her anger problems.
  • phdoofus "I bet you analyze everyone you meet." "No, only the a_h_les"
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  • SCNewsFan Educator here. She's a b`. Th other parents most likely don't like her or they're afraid of her. If her son is a behavior problem she's the reason. You did fine. You are a professional, probably eats her up.
  • flatpetey You clearly haven't taken the therapist hat off entirely in your comments when you try and understand her. Sometimes an enemy is just an enemy. Sometimes you just tell them to f right off. You don't need to fix her. You aren't working.
  • Alibeee64 You are right not to scream and rant like her, but to remain calm. She's the one that looks crazy, and I'm sure most of the other parents know how she is and have even had run ins with her too. Let her dig her own hole.
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  • PiquePole There are so many sarcastic responses that would violate your profession's code of ethics. I would be tempted to reply to "must be nice to sit around, listening to people complain all day" with "well, I do get paid to listen to people complain and because I just listened to you for the last five minutes, you owe me $20."
  • Allcapswhispers "Your projections are not my truths" and walk away.

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